Online Dating Tips
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Are you comfortable buying a dress or a diamond ring, without even taking a look at it? I am sure none of us would make that mistake and would definitely look at the choice available before making our purchase. Then how is it that you are okay with dating online? Shouldn’t you at least get to know the person, you intend dating.
Online dating is very common nowadays. People even do not post their photographs on the net, while they are dating. They spend precious time and money joining a site, sending their profile, filling the survey form, only to eliminate them from the opportunity of a prospective date, because they don’t post their photographs.
Is it because they do not feel good about themselves? One needs to understand that we should appreciate ourselves for what we are and post the photograph. Success will come.
People who post their photographs on online dating sites should take care as under-
- Avoid explicitly sexual photos
- Hazy photographs
- Photographs with kids in the background
- Somebody drinking and raising a toast
- Old outdated photographs
- Ultra formal photographs
- Photos where the attire is garish
- Photos where hair is unkempt
- Incomplete photographs
- Photos depicting bad attitude
- Grim faced photos
One should ensure that one does not forward photographs as above, since they do not project you in good light. Considering that you are searching on line for a life partner, get yourself clicked by a professional, so that your photograph projects you as you are. Do make sure that you are smiling, while getting clicked. A smile could get anything straight. So smile from your heart and the opposite person will receive it well. You would look brilliant and would get lot of positive response.
Your photograph should not be more than a year old. It would be very disappointing for your date to discover that you look older than what your photograph suggests.
Avoid sending group photographs. People want to date you and not your group.
Always look cheerful while you are getting clicked. This way you would come across as a fun loving and jovial person. Do not sport a serious demeanor. Remember that your photograph is the lead for your prospective life partner. Understand that a typical surfer browses the net very fast and there has to be something really attractive to hold attention. So, if your photograph does not communicate that, then you have lost the battle, not the war.
Hence, ensure that you follow the rules of the game as mentioned above to emerge as a winner.
Things to avoid while dating
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One is advised not to reveal everything to your dating partner because certain matters are not worth revealing. It is advised that you bury old thoughts, which would be of little or practically no value. It is best to keep certain things to yourself. Your partner would be least interested in these details. Here are some pointers and tips which would be worth following for a successful date. Men in armed forces, navy and personnel and uniformed men could also incorporate these pointers for a successful date.
- Avoid talking about your past boyfriend, girlfriend or spouse. Your date doesn’t want to hear that anyways. It could put off your date. He or she would get the feel that you are trying to replicate your past date or spouse. So, avoid doing so.
- Money matters cannot top the list, when you are dating. You would send out wrong vibes to your partner that you consider money as the topmost priority. One is advised not to give that feel to your partner. Sending out the wrong signals could end your relationship, before it could actually take off.
- Avoid talking ill about your past dates, friends or family members. This is not something your date would like to hear. You could be a person of principles. He/she would not appreciate this quality of yours. Your relationship would end just like that. No one anyways would want to trust a gossip monger. You are here to build a relationship out of a date, not talk ill about others.
- Avoid talking about past close relationships. Do not give importance to your past intimate relationships. It would discomfort your date and make them feel embarrassed. They would feel obliged to fulfill the expectations set by you. One needs to make the date enjoyable and not intimidating. You cannot give your date the feeling that you still have memories of your past relationships.
- Do not even by mistake, mention about your dishonesty towards your past date. No would appreciate this sort of a character. They would feel you are on another roller coaster ride to cheat them. They would get rejected straightaway since you have yourself admitted that you are a total crook and prankster. You would be eliminated anyways because you date feels you have a history of cheating.
- Only state those things that matter and are important. Unimportant things should have no place in your agenda. Things which are not worth mentioning need not be raked, since they would raise several other issues. Obviously, you would not be in a position all the queries.
The above would have sounded you the right things that you need to share with your date. It is but obvious that one would want to have a trusted and long lasting relationship with one single partner rather than looking out for fresher pastures everyday. If you are serious on hanging on to one person, then do not frighten your date with unnecessary information. Your date would anyways not want to hear unnecessary trash from your. Follow the rule “Silence is golden” in this case.
Writing Love Letters
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When you love someone, you also need to express it. never more so is this important than when in a relationship with somebody in the military when periods of absense are far to common. Do not let the train pass. When you need to communicate to your partner, how much you feel for him/her, just say it. Most do not know how to approach this issue. You could convey your feelings towards your partner by sending out an email. But like most people, you could be blankly staring at the monitor. You do not know what to write, and in the end you just give up, out of frustration. Many find it difficult to communicate their feelings towards their partner. They grope for words to convey their thoughts.
Every human wants to be loved and made to feel on top of the world. Everyone is so hard pressed for time that they do not take the effort to enjoy the small things, which is the very essence of love. Shakespeare rightly said “There is no time to stand and stare”. This is particularly applicable in the case of uniformed men and men in military, navy and air force, since they have no time for themselves and their families.
One is not able to judge even one’s own closest relationships. We feel that they are the ones who would be able to connect to our relationships and understand. But our judgment may prove to be wrong.
You need to pen such a beautiful letter which not only makes you feel happy, but also your partner. So then where do you begin?
- Write 5 qualities you find interesting in your partner. Be precise about it. Explain in detail about each quality of your partner, you value most. Choose examples to support those traits and qualities.
- Pen down 5 things they have done for you giving examples. This way you could substantiate your love for your partner. You could communicate your feelings towards your partner in this fashion.
- Choose any 3 examples from the qualities mentioned above, and write a letter. Begin with “I love you —–“. Try and convey your feelings towards your partner and express your thoughts about how blessed you eel to have him/her in your life. Express gratitude about the way you are made to feel in your partner’s company.
- Write a draft letter. You could then go ahead and beautify it with the right phrases and proverbs. Once you complete your letter, you would be in a better position to edit it, so that it flows well. You could give final touches to your letter after a day or two. Opt for an attractive, scented paper to write your letter. This would give a feel of love and warmth. Your partner would appreciate your time and effort in writing the letter. It would really touch her heart and she would feel deeply for you. In case you feel you do not have a good handwriting, then try getting it written by a professional. You could also try typing on a computer using an attractive font. As far as possible, one is advised to keep the letter personal by handwriting it and not typing it, since you would be losing the personal touch and warmth, the letter is meant to convey.
- You now need to ensure delivery of the letter to your partner. Whether you want to slip it into his/her briefcase/handbag or would you want her to read the letter in your presence? You could also send a bunch of flowers or a box of chocolates along with this letter. Ensure that the very essence of this letter does not pale in comparison to the gifts.
Anxious about your first date?
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Everybody loves dating. From the man on the street to the men in uniform and the armed forces, military and navy.
Your first date is one of the most important occasions in your life. It is an absolutely unforgettable moment in everyone’s life. The moment is filled with anxiety, nervousness, tension etc. The proverb “First impression is the last impression” fits perfectly in this scenario. Hence it becomes absolutely important that you strike the right chord on your first date.
Your first date has to hit the right note because it could be a long lasting and fulfilling journey, if planned properly. Only if you are successful in your first date, you would be given a second chance. So do not miss it.
The success rate of the 2nd date depends on the success of the 1st date. That is the reason why the first date is filled with lot of anxiety and tension.
Dating is an art. Even the most confident daters do get nerve wrecked and are anxious about the 1st date. So you can imagine the condition of the timid and shy types. These people find the 1st date absolutely testing and challenging.
For making the 1st date successful, one needs to follow certain pointers. Men in uniform and armed forces could also get tips from the below mentioned pointers:
- Try and ensure that the person you are dating does not get bored.
- Try and maintain decency
- Do not say anything nasty and unpleasant
If you do not follow these simple rules, things can turn topsy turvy. A little care and planning goes a long way to an unforgettable and enjoyable date. Do not take it for granted. It is a date of a lifetime.
Some people are shy by nature so they would find it extremely difficult to open up while they are dating. Shyness is one big hindrance in dating. Such timid people have to try and come out of their cocoon and be bold enough to date someone of their choice.
Why talk of only introverts and shy ones? Even extroverts find their first date packed with anxiety and tension. So then the shy and timid ones cannot be faulted.
Enrolment in a personality development program or listening to motivational tapes would be of immense help. Once you start believing in yourself, you would become confident. There are people who would have experienced bad relationships. It is difficult for such people to enter into a new and serious relationship, since the wounds of the previous relationships are yet to heal. So give it time. You are the best judge. Be doubly sure whether you would want to go in for a new relationship. Once you have a clear thought process, go for it. Do not get into a new relationship just for the heck of it, since it would again end in a disaster like the previous one.
New relationships can be scary for people who have had a disastrous relationship previously. One would always be unsure whether this would be a successful one. When you are ready mentally, go for it.
By having a positive attitude, one can make drastic changes in one’s life. So, happy dating!
Tips for online dating success
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Thanks to internet, you can now indulge in virtual match making before taking the plunge for marriage. When it comes to dating, as a precursor, the possibilities are numerous but very few actually succeed. Failure may be due to certain fundamental flaws and this write up is an attempt to address those.
- You need to make a good beginning by selecting a good dating site. If you have a particular requirement of qualities, vocation, food habits etc, you need to do a search to see if there are any dating sites catering to these requirements. Once you find one, you can say that you have the taken the first step properly. In doing this, you have consciously filtered some sites that is of no utility and now only need to look at specific sites meeting your requirements. For example, you may want to look at men who are in the armed forces, military, navy or the police and you will find specific sites that have members only from these professions.
- Upon selecting a site, you now need to email the administrator requesting for information on full paying members of their site. A site with good administration and practices will send a reply within the day. The admin for such sites often work 24/7.
- Keep away from free dating sites as these sites are beset with partial and untrue profiles. While taking a free trial period is okay, do not register as a member without assessing the conveniences being offered to members. For ex, do they offer chat, video chat, instant chat, forums etc? Desist from joining sites where you cannot do a search on members.
- You need to be aware of sites that do not offer good anti spamming blocking features as very often dating sites are broken into by scammers from other countries like Africa, Ghana or even Singapore and registered members like you could face harassment. A good dating site will use these blocking tactics, and it’s worth asking the question.
- Having made your choice and registered, you now have to create your profile. Keep to the facts, but try to come across as appealing as possible. Some humor will definitely help. A recent photograph is a bonus and will improve visibility and responses. Your requirement expectation of your partner should come across clearly without any ambiguity.
- Your emails to other members should reflect politeness and follow email etiquette, especially the first ones. Initial impressions are very critical. Also ensure you never fail to send your replies, even if it is just to decline.
- Remember to not give personal sensitive information like bank account or social security number to anybody. Do not get fooled by their stories or any reason. Stop carrying on any conversations with members who ask money and report it to the administrator.
- When you become comfortable with any member, take the chance to know him well. Exchange details, photographs. Do not get taken in by everything that is told to you, time will build trust and you need to be patient.
- Do not go by the photographs posted as they may be outdated. Seek to have a real time view of the person if your site allows video chat as it will reveal the current status.
- If you have fixed a meeting, ensure the venue is not a secluded one and the meeting is not an extended one. You need time to strike a good rapport and it cannot happen in a jiffy.
The above mentioned tips will hopefully help to make your online dating experience a positive and fruitful one